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Gossip : Toya Carter Talks Relationships and More With Rolling Out Magazine -Donning a gorgeous, gold, form fitting gown, Toya can be seen on the cover of this month’s Rolling Out Magazine. Now, as Ms. Carter takes her place in the spotlight, she shares her triumphs and tragedies from motherhood, handling her life, and her take on relationships with the magazine.
Below are excerpts from her interview:
Toya’s Thoughts on Motherhood:
“When you have kids at a young age, your kids tend to grow up with you. So, as I was learning, she was learning, which is why she is wise beyond her years. People see my daughter and say, ‘She is so grown.’ We were learning together. I couldn’t just put her off on everybody. That didn’t stop me from being a mother. I told her when she was born, ‘I’m going to give you all I didn’t have and more.’ … Love your kids … listen to them, hear them out. People say, ‘If you didn’t have it, you can’t give it,’ but that’s not true. I didn’t have [anybody], but I’m trying to be there for my daughter. [I tell her to] talk to me because I didn’t have [anyone] to talk to.”
What Women Are Doing Wrong In Relationships:
“I just feel like women just go so hard. They give their all so fast. They give 100 [percent] and don’t get that in return. Relationships [are] supposed to be equal. A lot of women didn’t grow up with the affection from their dad. So, when they find a man, they expect that man to give that to them. … They look for love in all the wrong places. They never had their fathers around to say, ‘I love you, and you’re beautiful.’ So, the first man to tell them, ‘I love you, and you’re beautiful,’ they fall for it. That’s the biggest problem. They throw themselves on a man all the time and say, ‘I got him.’ That [doesn’t] work.”
How Men Need To Change Up Their Game:
“Men have to be more respectful. This generation is just so disrespectful. They think it’s corny to open a door for a woman and just be polite. … What goes around comes around. What you put out, you will get back.”
Her Boutique:
“I’ve always loved fashion and accessories. One day when I was home, I said, ‘I love this spot.’ And I said I want to open a store. A month later, it was open, and it’s all I wanted and more. I got the whole retail [thing] down pat. And I love it. … I like to take charge. I pick out our own clothes. I designed it. I’m ready to open different locations in different cities.”
Her Book:
“I used to keep a journal all the time. I didn’t have anyone to talk to, [so] I would always write [everything] down. … One day, I decided to turn the journal into a book. … I can help young girls [based on] what I’ve been through.”
On Handling Hers:
“You have to [handle] your business yourself and not put it in other people’s hands if you want it to work.”
